Leading with Love
As entrepreneurs and leaders, it’s natural to experience fear. We must trust ourselves to do the work of love so we can show up in our bodies and hearts as mindfully as possible. It begins with our connection to self, then into the connection we have in our communities.
CONNECTION to SELF
How are you speaking to yourself? I find these questions help support an internal check-in, as sometimes the messages coming from ourselves are loaded with pressure.
Give yourself a break. Let go of the negative self-talk. It’s not serving your heart. Is the hurt in your life creating moments of disconnection? I find that when I am at my worst self (which always happens when my hurt is triggered) I become anxious, controlling, structured, closed. As Seane Corn, yoga instructor and activist, states, “Life happens. We can’t change what is. But we can change our perception to our experiences.” Our default is the desire to push these uncomfortable feelings out as fast as possible or to shut down and ignore these feelings. It’s tough work looking at these spaces within ourselves but so necessary to have true healing take place.
You don’t have to do it alone if it doesn’t feel authentic to your process. Reach out to a friend, research self-care tools that feel good for you, book an appointment with a health/wellness professional, sit in stillness and just breathe. There are methods, resources, people to support you on this path of healing, growth, and restoration.
CONNECTION to COMMUNITY
I believe people are wired for love and connection. Humanity thrives in this space.
Whether it’s concrete, tangible or subtle, intangible information we feel the energy of others deeply. In experiences where others in the community are feeling negative emotions- grief, fear, anger, shame, hurt- we carry that energy in our bodies, consciously or not.
Where does this energy come from? Our society is immersed in narratives of power dynamics driving collective negativity and feelings of separation. For generations, these systems have been at play and for some, we have not been consciously aware. This negative energy has impacted humanity deeply and today we see cases of hurt and trauma in everyone’s stories.
In experiences where others in the community are feeling positive emotions- joy, love, happiness- we can lead in self and community with more clarity, peace, and gratitude.
How do we find the love and light in our stories? It’s our responsibility to be presently aware of how your energy is impacting the space in the community. Be accountable for what you can consciously see and the awareness that comes from other people’s perspectives. Be gentle with yourself on what’s in your unconscious and what you’re unable to currently see clearly.
I believe that everyone is doing the best with the resources they have at the moment. I wish you well on your journey with what perspectives and tools you currently have. The saying “everything happens for a reason” has such truth. As in the joyful moments of our life, we shine and in the difficult moments of our life, we are invited into a space to learn. To be the best version of us. For ourselves and for the community, in business and in life!
You deserve the love - Community deserves the love.
Mackenzie Costron, BMT, MTA, RCT
Owner and Founder of Costron Coaching
Certified Music Therapist and Registered Counselling Therapist
1-800-827-3120 ext. 101